Kneeling in front of my wife’s tombstone and crying bitterly, I was reborn

Placing pieces on the board as obstacles involves another basic piece, the "lame knight".

Shen Qiansan originally had no intention of talking about lame horses right off the bat, but seeing that the two little guys had extremely high comprehension abilities and were quite familiar with the "Horse Day", he took the opportunity to explain the rules of lame horses.

This undoubtedly adds to the difficulty.

Anyone who has played chess knows that it is always easy to ignore a bad horse in the beginning.

However, that was playing chess, but Shen Dandan and Li Sisi only treated it as the rules of the game. After listening to Shen Qiansan's explanation, they kept it firmly in mind, and after several demonstrations, they had a preliminary grasp of what a lame horse is.

"Did you remember?" Shen Qiansan asked.

Shen Dandan and Li Sisi both nodded and said confidently, "I'll remember it."

"Then start."

As Shen Qiansan finished his words, Shen Dandan and Li Sisi couldn't wait to start a new round of the game.

When there are obstacles, the "horses" of both sides can no longer move forward as before, and sometimes they need to "move diagonally", which undoubtedly slows down the speed.

Judging from previous moves, Li Sisi had the idea and experience of "moving diagonally" early on, so in the first game, she, who was playing black and had the second move, arrived at the destination earlier than Shen Dandan.

"I went first and lost!"

Shen Dandan said somewhat frustratedly when she saw Li Sisi's "dark horse" pressing on her "general" chess piece.

At this time, Shen Qiansan spoke.

He did not comfort her, but said solemnly: "Dandan, when playing games, there will definitely be wins and losses, but we can't be unhappy just because we lost once."

"There is a saying that goes, 'Don't be arrogant when you win, and don't be discouraged when you lose.' It means that people should have a correct attitude when facing failure..."

This is the most fundamental reason why he decided to teach his daughter how to play chess, to cultivate her mentality.

Children who grow up in favorable circumstances often have strong self-esteem but lack self-confidence. No matter how well they usually perform, once they encounter a little setback, they will immediately lose their balance, feel frustrated, discouraged, painful, and even doubt their lives.

In his previous life, Shen Qiansan had seen several news reports about children who committed suicide after encountering setbacks, and he had also seen reports about some children who were unable to recover after encountering setbacks.

Therefore, he feels that compared to teaching children to memorize ancient poems, multiplication tables, mental abacus and other knowledge, it is more important for them to develop a calm mind from an early age, neither being arrogant when they win nor discouraged when they lose.

Basically, there are wins and losses in playing chess. You can instill this winning and losing mentality in your children through the repeated wins and losses, so that they know that they cannot win every time, losing is the norm, and losing is no big deal.

The most important thing after losing is to summarize why you lost and know where you lost. Then, in the next game, learn from the lessons of the last loss and try to win back.

What is winning? Why can we win?

He told the two little guys that winning is not about luck, but about using the right method.

After winning, don't be proud. Instead, summarize your winning experience and find better ways to win more easily and beautifully than last time.

After Shen Qiansan's explanation, Shen Dandan said, "Dad, I understand. It's okay to lose. I can win it back if I continue playing."

Shen Qiansan nodded, and then taught her to review the game.

The so-called review is to play the game again to find out where the problem occurred.

Reviewing the game requires extremely strong memory. You must clearly remember every move you made previously, otherwise you will not be able to review the game at all.

Shen Dandan and Li Sisi had just thought of it as playing a game, so they didn't really remember every step they took.

However, they don't remember, but Shen Qiansan remembers. He taught them how to review the situation step by step and helped analyze each step.

After analyzing a game, Shen Dandan knew where she lost, and Li Sisi also summed up a way to reach the destination faster.

Both little ones benefited a lot.

Shen Qiansan said: "From now on, every time you play, you must remember every step you have taken, and then review it easily, so that you can find the fastest way to victory."

Both little guys nodded in agreement.

Shen Qiansan didn't say anything more. After changing the obstacles on the chessboard, he let them start the game again.

The second game ended and Li Sisi still won.

However, this time Shen Dandan was not as disappointed as last time. She generously admitted her defeat and then carefully reviewed the game and summarized the reasons for her loss.

Li Sisi is a rather calm person by nature. She was not ecstatic even after winning, but reviewed the game seriously with Shen Dandan.

Shen Qiansan saw it and nodded with satisfaction.

This kind of training has begun to show results in the two little ones.

In the next few games, the two little guys won and lost alternately and had a lot of fun.

Especially when reviewing the game, at first they couldn't remember the entire game and needed Shen Qiansan's reminders, but later both of them could remember almost every step they took.

This is also the result Shen Qiansan wanted. Reviewing is a training of memory. Regular practice will greatly help improve memory.

It goes without saying how important memory is to learning, or to a person's life.

Of course, this kind of training cannot be achieved overnight, it needs to be done step by step.

The difficulty level that Shen Qiansan set at the beginning was not high. Although there were "obstacles" on the chessboard, a game could be completed basically within ten moves. This is why the two little guys were able to remember it.

He will gradually increase the difficulty later.

The time spent playing always passes quickly, and in the blink of an eye it was already past seven o'clock, and it was time for Li Jing to pick up Li Sisi.

"Aunt Jing, let me play with Sisi for a while."

Shen Dandan was having a great time, and when Li Sisi was about to leave, she naturally felt reluctant to let her go, so she asked Li Jing for permission after seeing her.

Li Sisi hadn’t played enough and didn’t want to leave yet, but she just looked at her mother without saying anything.

Seeing this, Shen Qiansan said to Shen Dandan, "That's all for today. Sisi still has to go back. If we're late, it will affect her school tomorrow."

Shen Dandan pouted: "But I still want to play for a while!"

Shen Qiansan said: "We can continue playing tomorrow."

Shen Dandan was still a little unhappy.

After all, children are having fun and if someone tells them not to play anymore, they will inevitably feel depressed.

When Li Jing saw this, she was about to ask them to play for a while longer, but was stopped by Shen Qiansan.

He said to Shen Dandan: "Dandan, I told you before that when facing winning or losing, you should not be arrogant when you win, and you should not be discouraged when you lose. Now I want to tell you another truth. You should be able to control yourself."

"When someone is playing with us, we can play happily. When others are busy, we can stop playing. When we are not playing, we can do other things."