Reborn in that autumn

To put it into detail, there is no major conflict between the young couple, and no one has done anything that touches the bottom line of principle, but the situation between the two people is completely full of irreconcilable hatred.The so-called "grievances" between the two are nothing more than trivial matters in life.

For example, the man dislikes the woman for being too sloppy, not washing the dishes cleanly, and often not cleaning the house properly.It took less than 10 minutes to clean the entire room. Then I touched the bedside and window sill with my hands. The dust on my hands was still "intact".

"If you start fooling around now, how will you live in the next few decades?" The man expressed his worries.

The woman's dissatisfaction also comes from her dislike of the man.She thinks that the man is too "feminine", cares about everything, and doesn't look like a "man".Moreover, it takes at least nearly two hours for him to cook a meal, which is enough time for her to go back to her parents' home in another place.

What's more terrible is that both of them think that the other is "disobedient." They speak to each other in a commanding tone, and neither party can show the tolerance and generosity that a couple should have. .As for understanding compromise and concession, it is even more impossible, and I have never had such an idea.

"He (she) is not like this when it comes to falling in love."This is the only common point of view between the two people at the moment.But they may not have thought that falling in love and getting married are really not the same thing.

When they are in love, both people will try their best to show the best aspects of themselves to each other.The man takes care of the woman as much as possible, and the woman also looks like a cute little bird.There will always be endless love words between the two of them, and there will always be endless love stories.The key word at that time was the word "sweet".

But after getting married, the two of them need to live together, eating, drinking, and having sex. Whether their advantages or disadvantages, they will be exposed in front of each other in all directions without any blind spots.Under such circumstances, small conflicts and frictions are inevitable.At this time, the label only has one word left - annoying.

When we are in love, we usually imagine that life after marriage is too simple and beautiful. However, when two people enter into marriage hand in hand, we find that everything in reality is far from what we imagined, or even completely different.

And in the sweet period of love, we may also ignore some hidden dangers of disharmony, because at that time the two of us are in a state of passion between the opposite sex, so some key signs are covered up. .

Just like this young couple, when they are in love, the man will show some domineering and selfish behavior from time to time, while the woman will show willful and unreasonable behavior intermittently.Both of them are only children, and both are spoiled by their parents. They are more self-centered in their actions and affairs, and rarely or never consider the feelings of others.

Family life after marriage requires a complementary state between the husband and wife. In other words, one party must show compromise and tolerance in order for the marriage to be harmonious and long-lasting.It's a pity that this important issue has been ignored. Even the old people on both sides think that the two have the "right" temperament and are a perfect match.As everyone knows, it is this same personality and temper that makes the two parties irreconcilable after conflicts arise, and also lays the groundwork for subsequent divorce.

But this does not mean that we have to give up our individuality and lose ourselves after getting married, let alone live a humiliating and compromising life every day.Because such a marriage is not seeking happiness, but seeking sin and suffering.

If after marriage, two people work hard and make sacrifices to pursue the goal of marital happiness, then there will be some accommodation and tolerance, and of course they will have the motivation and passion to go hand in hand with each other.

On the contrary, if you are still highly self-centered after getting married and never consider your spouse or family in everything, then to be honest, there is no need to live with such a person.

It was Li Zichen's father who took over the words and praised Wang Jidong: "I didn't expect that after only a few years of marriage, I could understand emotions so thoroughly."

"What you just said is so right. Men really can't be too self-centered."

"I also have a friend who is a soldier. Many years ago, he married a college student."

"The two have always been separated. One is in the army and the other is in the city. The two have not seen each other for several years."

"Soon, the man made great achievements in the army and was promoted. He also had more opportunities to go home to visit relatives. But after returning home, he did nothing after returning home and watched his wife at home. He was so busy that he thought it was his wife’s responsibility and didn’t get up to help her with her work.”

"The wife didn't pay attention at first. She thought her husband might be too tired after finally coming back, so she didn't ask him to help her."

"I found out that I was pregnant and had a child. My husband left again because he had made great achievements and was promoted again. The army gave me the opportunity to visit my relatives again."

"The wife is very happy that her husband can come home. However, she did not expect that her husband will still be like when he was just married. He is doing housework with a big belly. The husband still has no intention of helping and is just reading the newspaper."

"My wife felt aggrieved, but she still insisted on finishing the housework, and then lay on the bed to rest."

"After a while, my husband came back. He was lying on the bed talking to himself about his promotion. He said that his wife should stop working because she was pregnant. She could resign and he could support her now."

After listening, the wife made no reply and closed her eyes pretending to rest.

The husband was still minding his own business and didn't notice anything wrong with his wife at all.

After the husband finished speaking, he found that his wife was asleep, so he lay down to rest.

When he got up early the next morning, he said to his wife: "My mother said that I would come to take care of your delivery. I agreed and will come tomorrow. I have bought the tickets."

"Why didn't you tell me when they came?" the wife asked.

"Didn't I say that?" the man replied.

"I mean, why didn't you tell me earlier? I could clean up the house and go shopping," the wife said.

"Isn't there anything to clean up in this house? It's all my family, my parents won't care."

"Tell me what you want to buy and I'll go out and buy it later," the man said.

"There are a lot of things to buy. They need to buy a bed. We can't let them sleep on the sofa!" the wife replied.

As soon as his wife finished speaking, the man's phone rang and he said to his wife: "My former comrade asked me to have dinner and I agreed. I'll go and I'll be back soon. If you need anything, just send a text message and I'll go out and buy it."

The man left after speaking.