Reborn in that autumn

"Girl, if Grandpa Wang wants to chat with you a little more, don't be annoyed. It's okay for you to toss, but don't ask men how to love themselves."

"I understand that girls often feel insecure, especially in relationships. This is understandable. But if a woman is excessively insecure, it is also a troublesome thing.

"This is how a girl in a relationship is like. She is afraid of losing her boyfriend, because she thinks her boyfriend is excellent in all aspects, and there must be many girls who like him."

"In order to feel more secure, she asked her boyfriend to be with her at all times. No matter it was day or night, whenever she needed him, he must be by her side as soon as possible."

"Such a request is actually very excessive. Don't say that this man has a job. Even if he doesn't have a job, he has his own freedom. Why should he be asked to come whenever he is called? But the girl doesn't think so. She feels that if he doesn't If you are willing to follow the advice, it means you don’t love yourself.”

"For example, a man said that what made him most angry was when he was in a meeting and she insisted on buying apples and strawberries for her, so she asked him to buy them for her. In fact, she was resting at home that day, so she could have bought them by herself. But she said that she didn’t want to move, so she wanted to wait at home. Since she didn’t want to move, she had to wait until he got off work before buying it, right? No, she had to ask for leave to buy it.”

"He ignored her for the first time. When he came back from get off work, he found that she was angry at home and threw things in the house everywhere. When she saw him, she jumped on him and scratched her, accusing him of being unfair. Love her "sin".

"He said that that time, it really scared him."

"Always want to control a man's money

"The second thing that made him feel uncomfortable was that not long after they met, she wanted to control his salary card. He said that it was not that he didn't love her, nor that he didn't trust her, but he felt that between the two It’s not to the point where she can manage his money.”

"He said that when the relationship develops to a certain level, he will naturally let her take care of the money, but he felt a little uncomfortable after she had to take care of his money just a few days after they met."

"Of course, in the end, he handed over his salary card to her. Although he was not completely willing, he comforted himself that it would be a matter of time. But he didn't expect that after she took control of his money, it would be almost difficult for him to It cost money. He said that sometimes when he went out to do errands, he needed to pay for it himself first, and then return to the work unit for reimbursement. But she was in charge of the salary card, but gave him very little cash, which made him very passive."

"He has communicated with her, but to no avail. Her reason is that men spend money randomly, and there is always a reason for spending money randomly. So he feels that she is really unreasonable sometimes, and the communication between the two is also very difficult. Difficult because it was difficult to convince her.”

He is not allowed to have contact with the opposite sex

The third thing that he couldn't accept was that she asked him to delete all women's phone numbers in his mobile phone, not even his female colleagues.

She said that only in this way can he show that his love for her is 100%.He felt that her request was excessive, because in the workplace, how could one only deal with men?But she didn't care and insisted on forcing him to delete it.When he refused to delete it, she cried and made trouble, thinking that he was leaving a way out, or that he was trying to take advantage of others.

This made him very distressed, and because of this, the two began to quarrel.He said that it was impossible for him to meet her request unless he did not go to work and stayed at home with her all day long, isolated from the world, but this was completely impossible.

If he can tolerate the first two reasons, then this third reason is the direct reason why he wants to break up.He said that he might be willful, but he didn't think it was wrong to do so.

Actually, I don’t think there’s anything wrong with men doing this.If what he said is true, then this relationship is really about the girl herself, because no other man would be able to endure this.

Therefore, it is easy to fall in love but difficult to get along with each other.The beauty of falling in love at first sight cannot offset the cruelty of real life, nor the disappointment of each other after getting along.

Before they get married, the man can realize the shortcomings of this relationship. He is relatively smart.As he said, fortunately, he can't go far yet, and he's not in deep trouble yet. He still has to break it off when it's time to break it off. If he goes further, he might be in more trouble.

As a woman, breakup must be painful.But I don't know if this girl realizes her own problem.Or, she just puts the blame on the man, thinking that he has changed his heart or that he doesn't love her enough.

"Many times, both men and women actually need a clear introspection. Only in this way can both parties be more rational in their attitude towards feelings. What do you think?"

"Grandpa Wang is right. Although I don't understand it very well, I will slowly understand Zhidou and keep it in my heart." Ye Qiu replied.

Wang Yu nodded and said again, "Women like to toss, don't do it blindly, and women shouldn't be too stubborn."

"As a human being, you must listen to advice. Even if you don't accept it in full, you can't turn a deaf ear to it and be too blind and arrogant."

"Who has never been young, especially when it comes to relationships. Young people are even more stubborn and think that their parents are harming them. In fact, no one wants you to live a good life more than your parents."

"I have learned a new truth over the years, that is, people who are kind to you are not jealous or mischievous. They really care about you."

"As a human being, don't be too stubborn. Keep torturing yourself for a fruitless thing. This is stubbornness. The more you are like this, the worse your life will be.

Nine out of ten things in life are unsatisfactory. We often think about one or two, but don't think about nine out of ten things. Only by thinking more openly can we let ourselves go and live relaxedly.

Don't be stubborn because of things you can't do. Learn to accept reality, dare to face reality, and then be kind to yourself and stop doing things that hurt yourself.

Life is a disaster if people are too stubborn.You must learn to let go of your obsessions, don’t force things that you can’t do, and just let everything take its course. "

Choosing to be with someone is not to wrong yourself.

If we meet someone and the other person's family doesn't like you at all, then there's no point in marrying him.

It's better to learn to let go and don't be obsessed with such a person. In fact, everything between people depends on fate. We have to believe in fate. Who we meet and what we experience in this life are all destined. Everything depends on fate. Let nature take its course, hard work can change your destiny, love yourself and cherish yourself.