I am a Big Villain

"Dad, how did you and your mother get together in the first place?"

When the original wife passed away, Yan Duojin, the eldest daughter, was already eight years old. For her mother, even if more than ten years have passed, she still has memories of the other party firmly stored in the depths of the sea of ​​​​consciousness.

In Yan Duojin's memory, her mother was a fiery woman with a straightforward personality and a naughty manner. The Shan family's ability to have such a foundation now has something to do with her original efforts. In the family, the other party is also a A very good mother, even though she wanted a son because of old ideas, she did not ignore the daughters before them.

What's more, being able to make such an outstanding father miss her for half a lifetime and never marry again for the rest of his life is enough to prove the charm of the mother and the relationship between the parents.

"We were different from you at that time. There were only a few ways to find a partner, including introductions from parents, introductions from colleagues, and introductions from relatives. Only a small number of people found the partners themselves. At that time, it was not popular to fall in love. If you find the right person, , the family background is also suitable, you can make a decision and get a marriage certificate, and then your mother and I will be introduced by relatives. On the first day of meeting, the matchmaker got a positive reply from both parties. We went to see a movie with her and went to the park on the third day. Then the marriage was decided. After that, the elders on both sides discussed the bride price and dowry. After completing these procedures, your mother and I got married a month later. "

Yan Chu repeated what he saw from his original memory exactly.

"Is it just a blind date?" Yan Duojin was a little surprised. In the past, his father rarely mentioned things about his mother. The sisters also thought that their father was afraid of touching the scene and hurting their feelings, and they paid attention to this in their daily conversations.

She always thought that if her father could stay single for the rest of his life for her mother, it must be because they had a vigorous relationship before. But now it seems that she is overthinking it?

"Then when you met your mother on the first day, did you feel like your heartbeat was racing and you felt love at first sight?" Yan Duojin couldn't help but ask.

"How can it be so mysterious?"

Yan Chu couldn't help but laugh and touched his daughter's head, "Your mother has many brothers and sisters. When she was young, she and the first pair of brothers and sisters were sent to her grandmother's house in the countryside. She didn't return to the city until she was old enough to find a partner. At that time, she was dark, had two braids, and was wearing a newly made dark blue shirt. She looked a little reserved. At that time, I thought she was not good-looking, and I wanted your grandma to take the lead in the middle. The celebrity on the line said, we don’t like your mother here.”

Although he said derogatory words, there was a warm and reminiscing smile on Yan Chu's face. Yan Duojin understood that even if his father did not like his mother at the beginning, he must have changed his mind towards her mother later, otherwise he would not act like this He talked about what happened back then in an unabashed manner.

"But it's different at your mom's place. Your dad and I were so handsome when we were young. I still had a high school diploma. On the day of the blind date, your breasts were well groomed for me. They looked so polite. Your mom just saw me. Her eyes looked straight, and if you say it was love at first sight, she was probably like this."

"Dad, since you didn't fall in love with my mother at first, how come things ended between you two?" Yan Duojin asked anxiously.

Yan Chu patted his daughter on the shoulder and told her not to worry.

"Didn't I say it before? When we were looking for a partner, we looked more at family and the wishes of both parents. I didn't fall in love with your mother at that time, but your grandparents did. They thought your mother was strong and strong. , she is a hard-working woman, and your mother has a cheerful temper, which suits your grandma even more. At that time, she always thought that I was meek and needed this fiery woman to neutralize my temper. Since everyone around me said that. Okay, I thought I would give it a try, so I made an appointment with your mother to watch a movie and go to the park to play. As we got along with her, I felt that your mother was just as your grandma said, she was a suitable person to live in, that is. I agreed to the marriage, and then we got married, and then we had you."

Marriage at that time was not that complicated. Just get married if it suits you. It doesn't matter what you love or hate. Just live life and have children. If there are no accidents, it will be like this for the rest of your life.

What Yan Chu told was completely different from the stories the sisters imagined about their parents. Yan Duojin lowered his expression and thought of himself with some sadness.

"Dad, what kind of feelings do you have for mom? Is it responsibility?"

Yan Duojin thought of herself due to her parents' marriage. At present, it seems that Yao Zhan is indeed the most suitable one for her, especially when the two families are now cooperating harmoniously. If they can really get together, it will also strengthen the relationship between the two families. Partnership, it’s a win-win thing.

She didn't seem to need to think about other, more complicated situations.

Yan Chu saw his eldest daughter's thoughts, couldn't help but sigh, and then straightened her sitting posture so that she looked at him face to face.

"In your mother's and I's time, relationships were mainly cultivated after marriage. Is there love? There must be, but for more couples, what supports their subsequent marriages is responsibility and family affection."

There are some lucky couples who find that the other person is the right half for them during their relationship after marriage, and love gradually develops. They are lucky. There are also some couples who do not fall in love with each other during their relationship after marriage. But a family relationship developed, and they supported each other and stayed together for the rest of their lives. These people were also lucky, and they were also the majority of their generation.

What tests the second half of the couple is their sense of responsibility.

In the 1970s and 1980s, material life had just been basically satisfied, and many people did not have the leisure time to pursue spiritual prosperity. The relationship between husband and wife revolved around food, rice, oil, salt, and children and parents.

After the 1990s, people's material standards improved and their entertainment life became richer. At this time, the test came.

Men despise their wives for not being pretty enough, because no other women outside know how to dress up, and they despise their wives for not being gentle enough. They only know how to care about 13 cents. How can they be like the women outside who are knowledgeable and gentle.

In the same way, a woman will dislike her husband because her husband is not as good at making money as other husbands, and she will dislike her husband for not giving her a good enough life, while a woman whose husband is good at making money may also dislike her husband for not spending enough time with them. Compared with the temptations of those sweet words around us, today's marriages are lackluster.

At this time, they will think that the beginning of this marriage was just due to family arrangement and was just a makeshift living together. Breaking the shackles of this wrong marriage is the beginning of freedom.

Divorce began to become more frequent and more self-righteous, just like the literary talents in the Republic of China proudly held their new and progressive new wives, and said that they were not so proud and high-profile to the first wives they were marrying. It was like the original marriage was someone else's knife. What was going on around their necks was completely forgotten about the poor woman who was also suffering in this marriage.

At this time, responsibility becomes extremely important.

No matter how great the external temptation is, responsible people will remember who accompanied them through difficult times, who gave them children, and who followed them to honor their elders.

This world does not run solely on love and love. In addition to love, there are other things worth holding on to.

That's all before you choose your partner. Since you chose it in the first place, then in the subsequent marriage, you should be considerate and understand each other, instead of being tempted by the outside world and saying "I have no feelings for you". , bringing an end to the marriage.

Yan Chu didn't know whether the original man had ever been in love with his wife, but he was certain that before that strange Zhong Xiaoduo appeared, he was a responsible man.

"but."

Just when Yan Duojin thought that her father was going to teach her that the most important thing in marriage is responsibility, Yan Chu suddenly changed the topic and used a different rhetoric.

"We didn't have a choice in that era. Everyone said you were too young, so you had to go on a blind date and get married. Everyone said that the person was suitable for you, so you had to argue with him. That's how society was. You couldn't be new and different, just do something new. Able to live a step-by-step life according to a plan. ”

Yan Chu tucked his daughter's fine hair behind her ears and looked at her daughter with extremely loving eyes: "I like this era because it can accommodate more voices."

"I hope that when you lead your boyfriend to appear in front of your father, it is because he is the person you like, not just a suitable person. I hope that one day I will hold your hand and hand you over to another man. "It's because you love him and want to marry him, not because others say you're old enough to get married or have children. That's not correct."

"Dabao, dad hopes that your future marriage will not only have responsibilities, but also love."

Facing Yan Duojin's puzzled eyes, Yan Chu smiled: "Don't worry, dad is very open-minded. If you don't find the one you really want to marry, then we will have a lifelong relationship. One day, if you win You come back with a girl and say that she is the woman you like. Dad also raises his hands to support you. But there is one thing that Dad hopes you will remember, that is, don’t get married for the sake of marriage. Such a make-or-break life is not what Dad wants to see. of."

It's not that Yan Chu thinks that a mutually suitable marriage is bad, it's just that Yan Duojin is his daughter, so he wants her to live a better life.

"dad."

Yan Duojin's eyes were slightly red, and he couldn't help but bury his head in his father's chest, and then hugged him tightly.

She felt that her father should know about her recent troubles. What she said just now was also the advice he gave as a father.

To be honest, marriage is not a rare thing in this circle. As early as when he decided to inherit the Yan family, Yan Duojin was ready to find a husband with a similar family background and who would be beneficial to the development of the Yan family. Yao Zhan is such a There is no such thing as a person being liked or disliked, it is just because the other person is suitable.

Just like Yao Zhan expressed satisfaction with her, it was just because of the alliance of interests.

But now her father's intention is clearly that he just wants her to find a man she likes, rather than find a husband who is good for Yan's family.

Yan Duojin feels that the luckiest thing in her life is probably having such a wise and loving father.

The author has something to say: There are still three more updates, so we must still work hard tomorrow