Go back to 1980 and enjoy it

Generally speaking, after visiting the house, the man will ask Mr. Yin and Yang to choose a good and auspicious day, and then let the matchmaker deliver the date to the woman's family.

This time is basically completed within three days.

Therefore, on the third day after Ou Guohua came to visit the house, Deng Shirong came to Poxin Village with the date list that Deng Changyuan's family asked Mr. Yin and Yang to choose.

When he arrived at Poxin Village, Deng Shirong sat at his in-laws' house for a while as usual.

Since I brought a pig butt just a few days ago, the interval this time was relatively short, so I didn’t bring any more meat. Instead, I brought three bags of candy biscuits, one for my in-laws, one for the European flower family, and one for the European flower family. Packaged to Ou Guofang's family.

After sitting at his in-laws' house for a few minutes, Deng Shirong came to Ou Guohua's house.

After greeting each other and waiting for Ou's mother to receive the day slip and some more courtesy, Deng Shirong said to Ou Guohua who was listening: "Ah Hua, please take me to your sister Fang's house. I have already found someone for her." Find a partner and see if her parents are satisfied.”

When Ou Guohua heard this, she felt happy and asked quickly: "Uncle Jiu, is the person you are looking for for Sister Fang also from Naye Village?"

Deng Shirong smiled and said: "It's not our Naye Village, it's from Yangdipo Village next door, but it's also very close to our home, only a few minutes away."

Ou Guohua said excitedly: "That's great. Uncle Jiu is coming with me. My sister Fang's house is not far from ours."

When Ou's father and Ou's mother heard this, they were also happy to see it happen. Since their daughter had decided to marry in Naye Village, it would be a good thing to have another relative marry there.

"Relative, I'll go over first."

"Okay, Uncle Jiu, go and do your work!"

After saying hello, Deng Shirong, led by Ou Guohua, came to Ou Guofang's house.

"Sister Fang, Uncle Nine is here!"

At this time, Ou Guofang was sitting at the door of her house mending clothes. When she heard her cousin's shout, she immediately looked up.

When she saw Deng Shirong, she immediately threw her clothes on the stool next to her, stood up with surprise on her face and said hello: "Uncle Nine!"

Deng Shirong smiled and nodded, and asked: "Afang, are you mending your clothes?"

"Well, my brother has a hole in his clothes, please mend it for him."

With that said, Ou Guofang picked up the hookah next to him and handed it over and said, "Uncle Jiu, burn the hookah first."

In later generations, when guests came, they would boil water and make tea as soon as possible, but in this era, handing over a hookah is the best way to treat guests.

Deng Shirong took the hookah and said, "I just came from Ahua's house to burn a few pipes of smoke."

While they were talking, Ou Guofang's father and mother heard the sound and came out.

After introducing each other politely, Deng Shirong got down to business and said, "Relative, the main reason I came here this time is to introduce someone to your A Fang."

Hearing this, even though Ou Guofang was mentally prepared, she couldn't help but be pleasantly surprised, because she had been waiting for this news for a long time. Watching the best little sister marry the housekeeper, she was so surprised during this period. Time is really running out.

The hatred of getting married is growing day by day.

Now it was finally her turn, and it was Uncle Jiu who was the matchmaker, so the person introduced to her was most likely someone from there, which she was looking forward to very much.

Ou Guofang's parents knew about Deng Shirong as a matchmaker. After all, Deng Shirong was already well-known in Poxin Village. In addition, they often heard their daughter talk about Deng Shirong's family affairs, so when they heard that Deng Shirong said that he was here to introduce their daughter to a partner, They weren't surprised at all.

Kuniyoshi's father asked: "Uncle Jiu, is the man from your side?"

"He is from the village next to me, just a few minutes away from my home."

Next, Deng Shirong briefly introduced Deng Changdong and his family, and finally said: "This young man has an easy-going personality, basically has no temper, and he is very affectionate and righteous. He is a man worth trusting for life.

Although the current family conditions are not very good, based on the current development of his family, I believe they will improve soon.

If A Fang follows him, he should be able to live a good life. "

Ou Guofang's parents nodded repeatedly when they heard this. They had no doubts about what Deng Shirong said.

After all, their daughter and Deng Shirong's daughter-in-law were good sisters who grew up together, and it was impossible to trick their daughter even if they tried to trick anyone.

Therefore, Kuniyoshi's father and Kuniyoshi's mother looked at each other and said, "Uncle Jiu, we all believe in your vision."

"Since you have no objection, then I will arrange a meeting between them?"

"Okay, we have no objection."

Soon, after consulting Ou Guofang's parents, Deng Shirong decided on the time and place for the acquaintance.

Then, after burning a few tubes of cigarettes, Deng Shirong said goodbye and left.

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Qingming Festival is the most solemn and grand ancestor worship festival of our Chinese nation.

Due to our country's long history and vast territory, customs vary from place to place.

In Bobai County, grave sweeping is generally called "shoveling mountains" or "hanging paper."

The idea of ​​shoveling the mountain is because in Bobai County, nine out of ten graves are earthen tombs buried on the mountain. Every year when you go to worship, you have to bring tools to clean up the weeds on the cemetery. In the process of offering sacrifices, it takes the longest time to clean up the weeds in the cemetery. As time goes by, people call this behavior of worshiping ancestors during the Tomb-Sweeping Day as shoveling the mountain.

Moreover, since the tombs are all on mountains, which are also called grave mountains, or simply mountains, it is only natural that the act of removing weeds from the tombs is called mountain shoveling. This name vividly depicts the activities of local people worshiping their ancestors during the Qingming Festival. It is easy to understand and has local characteristics.

The saying about hanging paper is that when the Bobai Hakka people are repairing the tomb, they must put a straw hat on the top of the tomb and press it with a piece of yellow paper.

The pressing of yellow paper is also very particular. If the owner of the tomb is a male, the yellow paper should be pressed vertically. If the owner of the tomb is a female, the yellow paper should be pressed horizontally.

At the same time, strips of yellow paper about 30 cm long and 8 cm wide should be pressed about 60-80 cm around the tomb, with 6 strips hanging on each side.

Therefore, in Bobai County, grave sweeping is often called "hanging paper".

Of course, there is also the term "worship the mountain", which is also a very vivid term.

Tomb sweeping during the Qingming Festival usually takes place during the fifteen days from the Spring Equinox to the Qingming Festival, but if it is a new grave, it must be swept before the Spring Equinox.

Then the Grave Mountain is divided into Jia Mountain and Dazhong Mountain.

Jiashan refers to all the cemeteries that have not yet released the fifth server.

Dazhongshan is the ancestor of all generations outside the five servers.

Generally, the stronger the clan concept, the more solemn the act of worshiping ancestors. However, the clan concept in Bobai County is very strong, so every year when the Qingming Festival comes to worship ancestors, people in Bobai County can come back no matter where they are. Basically they will come back.