I beat animals and picked up debris in the courtyard of the heavens

Chapter 264 Hu Lijuan

At first, it was like this. Yaping's father's illness vividly showed that his daughter-in-law Hu Lijuan was always an outsider in the eyes of her mother-in-law.She insisted on letting Hu Lijuan stay up all night, but she was reluctant to let her son stay up all night.

It's no wonder that Hu Lijuan has no idea in her mind!

Later, an underwear war between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law vividly demonstrated how dark the psychology of a "masochistic" mother-in-law is: Yaping's mother's self-abuse was actually filled with the joy of victory.

After Yaping's mother arrived in Shanghai, she positioned herself like this: I am a personal cook and a nanny with a meal ticket.

So, she refused to go out to eat, took the train all day, even though there was nothing in the refrigerator, she still insisted on cooking for her children at home.She used the way of "working hard on herself" to show her maternal love: I would rather work hard and be tired, and save money for my son.

She asked Hu Lijuan and Li Yaping to rest. She didn't want to be a mother, she wanted to be a nanny and a cook.In Li Yaping's eyes, such a sacrifice is extremely great, even if his mother's behavior is a bit self-abuse, but Li Yaping fully approves of it.

As a filial son, he didn't intend to stop his mother's self-abuse, because her mother's self-abuse had been throughout his entire growth, and he had completely adapted to this state.

He deeply attributed his mother's "self-abuse" behavior to: selfless love.

So, the first meal Yaping's mother ate when she came to this house was stewed noodles mixed with scrambled eggs in soy sauce.

Regardless of whether the child needs it or not, no matter what the final result will be, some mothers just want to express their deep feelings by "suffering themselves", or to put it bluntly, by "abusing" themselves. maternal love.

Li Yaping didn't want to eat stewed noodles mixed with soy sauce, and Li Yaping also wanted to go out to eat, but Li Yaping's thoughts were not important, what was important was that Yaping's mother wanted to show "self-abuse" maternal love.

Yaping's mother's masochistic love began when she stepped into the house: she didn't watch TV, kept busy, ate leftovers from home, didn't eat a piece of braised pork, and didn't even bathe her son. Towels and clean underwear will be laid out for her son, and she even rushes to wash her daughter-in-law's underwear.

In fact, there is absolutely no need for Yaping's mother to do this.If she does this, she will only spoil her son and make her daughter-in-law uncomfortable, but Yaping's mother loves this kind of "painful and happy".

Selfless, or selfish?
In He Yuzhu's view, such a person has been busy all her life. She doesn't work, and she doesn't know what else to do, so she can only keep working to make herself feel alive!
In a family, whoever pays more can easily become the master of the family.

Yaping's mother was so masochistic that she felt that she was the most powerful person in the family. She began to instruct Hu Lijuan to work and broke the original order of the family. When Hu Lijuan refused to change, her heart was broken. Resentment began to grow like weeds: it was just a few bowls, and they couldn't be washed clean, they were beaten and beaten, and they immediately shook their cheeks and pulled their faces. Who is it for?As soon as I became a mother, I washed the dishes and wiped the floor for the rest of my life. I even washed the underwear of your daughter-in-law. What happened to asking you to wash a few dishes?
Why did Yaping's mother wash her daughter-in-law's underwear?Yaping's mother originally hoped that with her persistent housekeeping performance, Hu Lijuan would take the initiative to take on the housework, and transform Hu Lijuan into a woman like her!

Needless to say, Hu Lijuan was unwilling to do this!Naturally, it will also arouse Hu Lijuan's rebellious psychology!

For this reason, she and her daughter-in-law Hu Lijuan started a battle for underwear.

Ever since her mother-in-law complained that she didn't tidy up, Lijuan carefully hid her underwear every day, and washed them after she had enough rest, so as to prove to her mother-in-law that I can do as well without you washing me. Pass.

Lijuan can obviously rub her underwear and other clothes after taking a shower every day.But Lijuan is unwilling, the reason is that this is not Lijuan's way of life, but her mother-in-law's way of life. If she does this, it will be in line with her mother-in-law's wishes, so she completed the transformation of her mother-in-law without showing the mountains or the water own process.Moreover, Lijuan didn't want to soak her hands in soapy water, watching the lines on her fingers thicken and the horny skin on the back of her hands peeling off.

She refused her mother-in-law to do this, and made it clear that it was my personal property, please don't touch it.

But Hu Lijuan's mother-in-law intends to "show Lijuan a show in this way that half humiliates her daughter-in-law and half humiliates herself. I am not ashamed to do it. I will demonstrate it to you and show you every detail of life. I don't believe it. Sun and earth do these things, can you turn a blind eye?"

In this way, no matter where Hu Lijuan hid her clothes, they would always be found out, and Yaping’s mother, always with the excitement of hunting, rummaged through every corner of the bedroom tirelessly, patiently and meticulously. Seeing the joy of victory, he persisted in washing with his hands, exposing himself to the sun, and handing it to Hu Lijuan himself.

Hu Lijuan was defeated and no longer hid, but Hu Lijuan's mother-in-law began to feel resentful because this incident did not reach her ideal ending.

Is she really doing it for Hu Lijuan?Does she really want to help Hu Lijuan wash these clothes?Or she wants to use this "self-abuse" method to achieve the purpose of suppressing her daughter-in-law and making her submit.

I have to say that Yaping's mother is very clever in doing this, but the problem is that it only works for those who understand her!
For example, Li Yaping, seeing this, because of the family relationship, he will feel that his mother is paying for him!
To give an example, replace Yaping's mother with Hu Lijuan's mother. If this is done, Hu Lijuan will probably be reformed and do things according to her mother's wishes!
This is the difference between inside and outside!Farewell to family!
Therefore, a daughter-in-law like Hu Lijuan may not be so good, and a mother-in-law like Yaping's mother may not be so bad. The key is from which angle you look at it, or whether he has touched your interests!
For Yaping's mother, this self-abuse and good performance for Lijuan is entirely out of sincerity, not a dark psychology: I am a mother-in-law, and I want to subdue you, a daughter-in-law.It's that simple!
As a mother-in-law, what I say doesn’t work, but then, as an elder, I still have to listen to you? !Is this plausible? !

This kind of mentality is probably in the mind of any elder. Even if Hu Lijuan becomes old and becomes an elder, she will still think like this when she meets her daughter-in-law!

So you can see that this kind of conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is passed down from generation to generation and cannot be reconciled!In the case of Mao Doudou, to be honest, there are too few, too few...

Hu Lijuan was always fighting, which made Yaping's mother more and more annoyed, and finally caused the tragedy of being beaten to death. It can be said that Hu Lijuan herself has half of the responsibility!
(End of this chapter)