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After taking care of these internal affairs of the national team, Zhao Yaning also ushered in the match between the Chinese team and Estonia.In this game, Zhao Yaning was replaced after halftime on the field.And this game, because of Daewoo's goal, finally won 1:0.

Since it was a friendly match, Zhao Yaning didn't put too much energy into it.Talking nonsense with the veterans of the national team is much more tiring than playing ten games.After he finished the game, he returned to France with almost no stay.

It's just that he didn't answer immediately to go to Monaco. In Paris, he still has some things to do.

"Hello, Mr. Leuer." Zhao Yaning greeted his consultant, and then sat down.

"Hello, Joey. We haven't seen each other for a long time. You went back to your country to play for the national team, right? So, is there anything you want to share?" [

Zhao Yaning was silent for a while. Although he knew the opponent’s professional regulations, he still couldn’t help asking, “I have some things to say, but these questions are related to some things about my national team. You won’t tell them. Anyone else?"

"Of course not. We have professional requirements, and didn't we just sign a non-disclosure agreement? Joey, I said that lack of trust is a big weakness of your character, have you forgotten?"

"I haven't forgotten, it's just that these words are different from the previous ones." Zhao Yaning scratched his head and continued, "Some unpleasant things happened to me in the national team. The things are very long and may take a long time to finish. Hope you have patience."

"I'm a consultant and I charge on time. Of course I'm very patient."

Zhao Yaning smiled slightly, and then began to talk.Mr. Loyle leaned forward slightly, listening to what he said, and kept nodding his head.

The story is indeed very long, and what Zhao Yaning said was fragmentary, but he continued to speak little by little.It took him more than half an hour before he finished what he wanted to say, "That's it. I'm very troubled now because I don't know whether I was wrong or they were wrong. I hope the national team can come out. results, but they are always careless about the results of the national team. I once thought that they were hopeless, but now, I find that they still seem to have some merits. This makes me feel confused, I don’t You know, I ask them to play well, is it my fault or theirs?"

Listening to this, Leuer nodded and said, "Joy, when you came last time, you said you wanted to use npl technology to analyze, I said to use psychoanalysis to dig out your childhood personality formation, and then Then use cognitive-behavioral therapy to change your behavior habits, and if you want, use motivational techniques to positively reinforce your behavior concepts. The past stage is the stage where you know yourself and know yourself. You know you For myself, I began to realize that there is a certain difference between your thinking mode, behavior habits and socially recognized habits, which shows that you have made progress. The next step is that it is time for you to change your thinking.”

"So, do you also think I was wrong?" Zhao Yaning asked back, "But playing football well is the most basic thing for football players and the most important thing to pay attention to."

"Joy, first of all, please calm down and listen to me: In theory, each of us has a different understanding of the world. Therefore, in theory, each of us has a subjective perception of the world. , not objective. What you say should be, what should not be, is actually just your own personal judgment, and among these things, only those things that have reached agreement with others, that is, in everyone's subjective perception It is the right things in everything that you strive for objectively. Now, your understanding of the world has conflicts with many people, so it means that you have not viewed this moment objectively. As a young person, sometimes you will always Ask, Am I wrong or is the world wrong? This kind of question arises because you live in your own world.”

These words made Zhao Yaning's eyes widen, "You mean, I'm just deceiving myself?"

"It's not self-deception, but the way you know things is purely a certain problem. It's no big deal. Everyone's way of knowing things has problems. Each of us is subjective and absolutely objective. If it doesn’t exist, everyone’s subjective views will be different, so there will be conflicts.”

"Then how should I resolve this conflict?" Zhao Yaning asked.

"We can look at this issue in this way." Leuer smiled, "Your values, the values ​​of Chinese players, and the values ​​of outstanding good players are three different values. Your values ​​​​are closer to the values ​​​​of good players, and Chinese players have different values. Right?"

"Yes." Zhao Yaning nodded.

"So, your conflict, in the final analysis, can be attributed to a conflict of ideas." Leuer said, "

After praising him, Leuer continued, "In nlp technology, people's perception methods are divided into three internal sensory types: visual type, auditory type, and sensory type."

"Generally speaking, visual people pay attention to self-expression, color, lively, loud voice, straightforward personality, athletes, and most of them are this type of people. Auditory people mostly pay attention to words and People who express their voice, speak rhythmically, do things in an orderly manner, and are prepared, generally speaking, such people generally read more books and do things more meticulously, and there are more successful people among them."

"Then what kind am I?"

"The third type is the feeling type. The characteristics of the feeling type are that they are reticent, have poor language expression skills, hope to be cared for and respected, attach great importance to their own feelings, value honor, and when talking Likes to use words associated with values, and blames others, not on their abilities, but more on their attitudes..."

"This is indeed me." Before finishing speaking, Zhao Yaning interrupted Mr. Loyle with a wry smile.

"When you came last time, you said that your coach wanted you to change your personality. I guess he wanted you to change into a visual person. After all, on the football field, people who value self-expression and have a straightforward personality are It is more acceptable. But the reason why I didn't immediately give you positive reinforcement to change your personality is because I think you should be an auditory person rather than a visual person. A visual person, Born with rough lines and not paying attention to details, I don't think that's what you want. You are eager to succeed, so I hope to guide you into a person who has enough self-awareness and self-reflection to promote self-improvement. people."

"Thank you, sir." Zhao Yaning scratched his head and said, "But what should I do to grow myself?"

"Didn't I already tell you? Solve the problem. When you tried to solve the problem in different ways, your cognition changed with your behavior. Convince your teammates, try to use words and plans to solve the problem. Do things instead of doing things according to your own feelings. This is my advice to you. If you start to be organized in your actions, organized in your speech, and make planning a part of your life, you will really grow Alright." Leuer waved his hand, "Personally, I don't like to give people some special and targeted psychological training. I think this kind of training from life is more helpful to people. We You can do it for a while, if not, I will adjust your treatment method, okay?"

The conversation ended here, and Leuer looked at Zhao Yaning and said again, "I hope you can play a few good games. Although I am not a Monaco fan, you played really well."

"Thank you, sir." Zhao Yaning nodded.

"Are you going to Monaco now?" Leuer asked again.

"No, I still have something to do. I want to visit a friend." Zhao Yaning hesitated and said.

"Girl?" Leuer laughed.

"Sometimes I really doubt that you can read minds."

"I won't, but I will observe your reaction. And I judge, it should be a very beautiful girl you like very much?" Leuer patted his head, "Also, you seem to have any concerns, She's not your girlfriend, is she?"

"I have a girlfriend...Maybe this can be our topic for discussion next time." Zhao Yaning scratched his head and said.

"Okay, but I can give you a piece of advice right now, 1 minute is enough." Leuer looked at him, "Teenage problems are much easier to solve. I just tell you one sentence is enough: What kind of girl you like is not only your choice of love, but also the projection of your personality. First love is generally a projection of your purest personality. And beautiful women are generally some of your best wishes projection. Remember, it’s not just a matter of your love, it’s a matter of your personality.”

These words made Zhao Yaning stunned for a long time, not knowing how to speak.